Sexual violence is what happens when someone does not consent to a sexual act. There are many different kinds of sexual violence from flashing and voyeurism to sexual assault and rape. It can happen to anyone - women, men, girls and boys - of every age, race, sexual orientation and religious background.
No one ever deserves or asks for it to happen.
No matter where you were, what you were doing, what you were wearing, what you were saying, if you were drunk or under the influence of drugs, you did not deserve this. The responsibility always lies with the attacker, not you.
Research shows that women are more often attacked by someone they know and trust. This may be their boyfriend, husband or partner and can happen in the context of an intimate relationship. They may have been sexually abused as a child by an adult known to them.
You always have the right to say no to sex, whether or not you have previously had consensual sex with someone.
Everyone reacts differently to a traumatic event. Whatever you feel is a natural response to what has happened. Some examples are below. But you might feel none of these. Whatever you feel, it is important to get support if you need this.
Take things at your own pace. There is no right or wrong about how long it can take to come to terms with something like this.
It can be hard to look after yourself when you are going through a traumatic time, but it is important to eat and sleep as well as you can. Everything can seem much harder to cope with when you are tired and run down.
You don’t have to cope alone.
Share your thoughts and feelings about your experience with a trusted friend or family member, partner or another survivor.
You can also speak in confidence to a rape crisis centre. Use the form included on all pages of this site to find a rape crisis centre near you.
It is up to you whether to report what has happened, immediately or some time – even years - later. If you decide to report to the police/legal authorities think about taking a friend or relative with you for support.
You can contact a rape crisis centre for help with reporting.